Greatest Gifts (Chapter 13 Excerpts)

“ONE OF THE GREATEST GIFTS PARENTS CAN GIVE THEIR CHILDREN IS ALLOWING THEM TO BE KIDS...

I come in peace and love on the behalf of all children, for their rights, their future and their lives. I am believing one day I will get the opportunity to share this chapter with my grandchildren when they are old enough to understand and comprehend mentally, that it is never a child’s fault for the actions of their parents.

     Encouragement should be reinforced by assuring children that they are loved and always have been loved. First of all children belong to GOD not parents, not people! Therefore understand NO ONE, and again I say NO ONE has a God given right to deprive children of their heritage, history, and love, without tremendous repercussions! When a parent decides to alienate or take a child out of the other parent’s life and not allow the child or children to see, visit, nor have access to the other parent then understand that you are dangerously destroying the overall development and well-being of your child which could possibly have severe and deadly consequences in your child’s life.

     One of the most toxic environments for children to grow-up in, is one where their individual identity is tampered with from the negative statements that they hear about their absent parent. It becomes a confusing hostile territory where they lack a sense of identity, because one half of a child’s genetics and make-up comes from each parent and being able to identify with each parent is crucial in the totality of the total self. Equivalently a child can often begin to think and/or feel parental hatred about an absent parent from the hate talk they have been subjected to. When a parent speaks emotionally abusive and negative statements by projecting angry rants of hostility and venting rage about the child’s other parent it oftentimes causes lingering effects of isolation, seclusion, loneliness, social withdraws, reclusiveness and if not monitored a child can possibly begin to self-mutilate, or become suicidal, God help us all. This can also lead the child to have the same negative association towards themselves, which can manifest in negative ways such as self-sabotage, self-loathing, self-dislike, and self-hate that usually leads to self-identity issues or worse.

Let’s talk facts!

It is a FACT that a mother can NOT perform the role of a father to a boy child, nor can she raise a boy to become a man. Boys need their relationship with their fathers to gain a sense of themselves and to understand their association to masculinity and male identity from their father. Without that relationship they often grow up lost and confused about their identity as a man. Noting it is equally factual that a father can NOT submit to the role of a woman for a girl child, nor can a male parent raise a girl to become a woman. As boys need their father, girls need their mothers to understand their female essence, self-esteem, body image, emotional moods and needs, and body changes in development, and much more. Without the nurturing influences of their mother, girls tend to self-loathe, having the inability to mature into functional womanhood resulting in dysfunctional and/or abusive relationships, tragically.”

- Written by Linda Watters Gosey